Ok, so I used to suffer from an intense amount of insecurity. I
Couldn’t make simple decisions
Would avoid eye contact
Apologize over nothing
Never voiced my opinion
Was always on the defense
Needed constant validation
Needed constant reinforcement
People pleased and….
Would completely over-react over something as simple as my hair not sitting right
That was just the start. Talk about exhausting.
CHANGE WHAT YOU BELIEVE AND YOU CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL
Sounds simple right?
Simple it is but it takes one major thing to knock insecurity on the head; COURAGE.
Your going to have to face things you probably don’t want to face.
Your going to have past wounds surface.
It’s going to take work and it’s not going to feel comfortable but
YOU ARE NOT THE IMAGE IN YOUR MIND
I would say the biggest insecurity I’ve had has been my body image. I’d find a fault in every curve, each stretch mark, the flabbiness, the cellulite and not so perky boobs. The list of insecurities never got smaller, they just got bigger until I finally learnt how to get a grip on them.
DITCH THE INSECURITIES
1. GET YOUR SECURITY FROM THE RIGHT PLACE
Long term, your not going to find it from your husband, your boyfriend, money or your job. Your not going to find it from your circumstances or your looks. Security comes from a place of self-acceptance so quit comparing yourself to others and embrace your own uniqueness.
2. REALISE YOU CREATE YOUR OWN INSECURITIES
And this is where your self-belief comes in because if you don’t believe you are worthy, beautiful, deserving, capable ect then your going to behave in a way that reflects that. Believe in yourself and your abilities and you develop faith, trust and feel confident!
3. REMOVE THE TRIGGERS
People, places or social media sending your insecurities through the roof? Validate those feelings and be proactive in filling your mind with things that actually make you feel good.