Relationships are supposed to be honest but how many times are you actually being dishonest?
I’m sure most of us if not all of us can relate to a time where we have ignored or at least filtered down our true feelings to please others and avoid uncomfortable situations. We know what the solution to our problem is but we make excuses, justify actions and convince ourselves that “things will change”. Sound familiar?
Honesty can be scary. Actually, it can be bloody terrifying. It’s confrontational, it makes us feel vulnerable and it holds us accountable. Who wants that? Not me! I used to think that suppressing the truth would hurt a lot less then speaking up. That was until I realized that keeping quiet does not preserve things from happening. What does is honesty, trust and communication. Speaking up actually opens the doors to happiness!
Unsure if you’re being dishonest? Here are five signs that perhaps your not being as honest as you’d like to think you are
- You say yes and agree to things that you don’t want to just to keep the peace
- You feel like you have to justify everything
- You question or doubt yourself, your partner and the relationship
- Your always on the defense
- You have to convince yourself your happy
If you’re nodding your head in agreement to any of these now might be a good time to think about why you’re in the relationship. Are you getting what you need? Are you fulfilled? Do you support each other through the good times and the bad? Do you accept each other as you are? Are you both on the same page with your goals? Do you trust each other?
If there’s one thing that will tear a couple apart it’s being dishonest. If you truly love your partner and want to make things work face the truth head on! It’s much better to work through things as a couple.