So many thoughts went through my mind when he finally admitted his lies. To say I was heartbroken was an understatement. It was the most gut-wrenching sickening feeling I had ever felt.
I couldn’t get past the infidelity.
The relationship was over.
I spent a lot of time after that trying to figure it all out. Trying to understand his behavior and questioning myself. Was I not enough? Am I that bad? What did I do to deserve this? If there is one thing that will make you analyse and self-reflect, it’s got to be deception.
If you’ve just been cheated on your about to have the worst and the best few months of your life but I promise you there is a silver lining. You will heal and come out the other side stronger, wiser, happier and THANKFUL that you did not invest any more of your life with the wrong person.
7 Things I Learnt From Being Cheated On
1. I’M STRONGER THEN I THOUGHT I WAS
There is no where to move but forward. After you’ve been cheated on you truly discover what your capable of. You will get over the pain and you will be stronger, wiser and more resilient then you ever thought possible.
2. YOU DISCOVER YOUR ABILITY TO FORGIVE
They may not deserve it but you need to forgive to move on. One question I got asked at the time was this ‘Can you forgive the act but not the actor?’ It’s not so much about forgiving the person but accepting the situation and deciding that it will no longer rule your life.
3. LOVE ISN’T ALWAYS FOREVER
Nor is marriage a safety net. Love is a beautiful thing but don’t let it blind you into thinking that it’s indestructible.
4. THE FIRST PERSON YOU NEED TO LOVE IS YOURSELF
There’s only ever one person you can fall back on in life and that is you. We need our own love, our own acceptance and our own validation. I often hear the phrase ‘How you treat yourself sets the standard for the way others treat you’. It’s so true. Your worth is important and you deserve better.
5. THINGS FALL APART FOR OTHER THINGS TO BE CREATED
If I hadn’t of been cheated on I wouldn’t be where I am now. I wouldn’t be the person that I now am. You might not see the blessing straight away but there is a reason this happened. Better things are coming your way.
6. THERE IS A LOT TO BE SAID FOR OUR INTUITION
My intuition was flashing big red lights and sirens for weeks but I ignored it. I ignored it but it never went away. If your gut is telling you something is wrong, something is wrong. Listen to it and be brave enough to take action.
7. THE BEST REVENGE IS HAPPINESS
Bullying or nastiness isn’t going to make things better. What will make YOU better is using all that anger and pain as a catalyst to your success. Use it to fuel your fire and become the best version of yourself.